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“You cannot be shaped by something you’re unwilling to feel.”

In this episode, I’m talking about the art of transmutation and how we use it to step into our fullest expression and begin contributing to the world in the way that only we can. Transmutation is changing or altering the form, appearance, or nature of something—especially to a higher form. It’s a practice I’ve been engaged in for as far back as I can remember, and it’s allowed me to take grief, trauma, sadness, despair, and anger and turn them into productive and expansive energies that create lasting change in the world around me. If you want to understand this process a bit more and how you can apply it on your own journey, this episode is for you!

Listen to our episode on working with your emotions here.

What to listen for:

• The multiple ways to understand and define transmutation
• How transmutation showed up during my grief journey
• You can’t transmute if you’re bypassing harder emotions
• Life can’t shape you if there’s avoidance at play

“You cannot be shaped by something you’re unwilling to feel. You cannot truly transmute something contractive, heavy, and hard into something expansive, purposeful, and productive without feeling it. You may be able to extract lessons and wisdom from what happened, but you’re doing it intellectually. You haven’t found your way to that.”

• Not feeling our contractive emotions ultimately holds us back
• Processing what’s been stored in your body
• How to use fear as fuel to reach your full potential
• Telling ourselves stories keeps us small and limited
• Channels of expression and when we can utilize them

“If this is your first big loss or trauma, it doesn’t make sense most of the time for you to transmute and channel. It can make sense for you to feel and process to build that relationship to your emotions. To navigate the deep underbelly of these journeys. Or you may be at a point where you’ve been feeling, healing, reorienting to yourself, and now you’re ready to transmute. But maybe you’re not ready to channel that. There are stages to this.”

• You have to know yourself and not rush the process
• Waking up to what’s going on in the world and feeling fully
• Shutting down is not self-care; it’s avoidance
• Exploring channels for transmuted energies

“These are the channels for transmuting contractive experiences into productive and expansive ones. And we start to create change not just for ourselves in our lives but for those around us. We start to disrupt generational and systemic patterns that cause harm simply by feeling our feelings fully and learning to work with them very specifically.“

• Being free and leveraged to create more freedom
• The three steps to transmutation

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“If everything could be transformed overnight, would it be worth doing the deeper work to experience that?”

In this episode, I’m talking about quantum leaps and how we can start experiencing more of them in every area of our lives. Most people don’t like the concept of quantum leaps because it’s so overused in online marketing, specifically by coaches who make dramatic claims about making money. But quantum leaps are simply an abrupt change, sudden increase, or dramatic advance as a result of seemingly small internal shifts. They directly result from altering our worldview, subconscious beliefs, and way of being—all things that cause the world to reconfigure around us and life’s many possibilities to suddenly become accessible.

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What to listen for:

• The definition of a quantum leap and how they occur
• Going from overdrawn bank accounts to six-figures in six months
• How our subconscious programming limits possibilities
• Feeling called to an event that I couldn’t really afford to attend
• The reflection that shifted my perception of self rapidly

“I saw my client commanding a room from a very soft, purposeful power that she had within her, and something about that resonated for me. I knew that I had that in me somewhere. I had just lost it. I had just forgotten about it. This two-and-a-half-day experience altered what was going on for me internally; it shifted my perception of myself, life, and business. It gave me clarity around what I wanted to do, who I wanted to work with, what I wanted to offer, who I wanted to be inside all of that.“

• How my financial situation flipped seemingly overnight
• Shifting our way of being, frequency, beliefs, and more
• Why our circumstances are wholly irrelevant to what’s possible
• What happens when we organize ourselves differently
• Why the quantum leap conversation doesn’t resonate

“The reason that it doesn’t resonate for us is that something is missing in that conversation. How do we do that? How do we make that internal shift a reality to experience an abrupt change, a sudden increase, or a dramatic advance? That is what is left out of these conversations. And even in me talking about this, you still might not like the answer.“

• Healing our deeper traumas to shift our internal experience
• Repatterning our subconscious to create leverage
• Working with our frequency-based universe to manifest rapidly
• Being willing to do the deeper work to expand your life
• What would be worth doing this work for?

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“When we’re being the person who has what we want, we become magnetic to it because we’re operating at the same frequency of it.

In this episode, I’m talking about how we compound magnetism so we can continue aligning with what we want, even when life gets chaotic and hard. We all experience challenging chapters and have to navigate big life transitions, not to mention having to feel all the contractive and uncomfortable feelings in between. But experiencing sadness, anger, hurt, jealousy, or frustration doesn’t mean we stop our manifestations from coming through… when we know how to stay plugged into our desire and the correct energetics.

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What to listen for:

• What is magnetism, and where does it come from?
• Changing frequencies result in our cells vibrating differently
• The methodology for making the impossible inevitable
• How we shift the odds of what we want happening in our favor

“What we want literally begins to move towards us as we move towards it. So to know what it is that you want, you have to know who it is that you’re here to be. When we are being the person who has what we want, we become magnetic to it because we are operating at the same frequency of it.“

• Becoming a clearing for what we want to come in
• How our frequency creates resonance or not
• Magnetism feels challenging to maintain during chaotic times
• Nothing is wrong; this is just part of the process
• You have to know what you want to stay plugged into it

“When life is chaotic… when the big, hard, heavy contract of emotion shows up, and you feel overwhelmed when it feels disorienting, simply to exist in your own skin… you have to be able to plug back in. Really visualize what you want and tap into who we need to be.“

• You can’t be magnetic if you’re bypassing your emotions
• Holding the duality of emotions and experiences
• How we compound expansive states to create magnetism

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“If you want to grow, you’re going to be stretched.”

In this episode, I’m talking about stretching yourself and navigating the tension of rapid growth. I’m personally moving through a season of massive expansion in all areas of my life, and feeling stretched is a constant theme. But I understand that there’s always tension in growth, and while sometimes that can feel painful and hard, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong. It doesn’t mean that what I want isn’t possible or I’m incapable of bringing it to life; it just means that I’m in the process of growing into more and calling in more aligned experiences.

Read What Really Happened? to break free from interpretation and make the impossible happen.

What to listen for:

• Stretching expands our capacity for more, better, and different
• There’s always tension in growth, but that doesn’t mean anything
• The importance of building a relationship with our emotions

“If you want to grow, to step into what it is that calls you, and make impossible things happen rapidly, you have to have a relationship to your emotions because you’re going to be stretched as an individual, as a leader, as a creative, as a partner, as a parent. You’re going to be stretched. And in that stretching, there will be tension, discomfort, even pain.”

• Being shaped more deeply into who we’re here to be
• Creating space for fluid movement and more energy
• Cultivating ease through understanding what’s happening
• Resistance will cause us to fight against what we say we want
• Not assigning meaning to the ways we describe the process

“We don’t even like to say things are going to be hard because we think we’re manifesting challenges. That’s not how it works. You’re stating a fact. I am about to stretch myself and my capacity. I’m about to step out of the known and familiar. There’s going to be tension to some degree, which means within that tension, there might be pain, there might be challenges and struggles and discomfort. Can you normalize that?”

• How to avoid activating your subconscious winning strategy
• Nothing is wrong with you, other people, or the situation
• Tension is not the same as resistance
• Knowing your subconscious stoppers so you stay in motion

“If you can look back and every time you’ve ever stopped, whether it was an external or an internal reason, you can start to unpack how your subconscious knows it can get you to stop. There’s no judgment. We all have a way that we stop.”

• Resting is self-care and not the same as stopping
• Staying plugged into the right energy and your desires
• You can feel fear and still be in the frequency of faith
• Giving yourself grace when you stop or give up
• Welcoming the triggers and stoppers that come up
• Your capacity needs to expand to do the impossible

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“You have to be yourself because living in that authentic expression is what is going to make you happy, not people pleasing.”

Today I’m talking to Kaedyn Nedopak—an award-winning transgender writer, producer, and creative activist who uses his creative work to inspire others and activate change in the world—about his journey of transitioning and how he’s moved through seemingly impossible challenges along the way. Kaedyn is coming to us from the middle of this experience for our first “in process” episode, and he has so much potent wisdom to share about what it takes to not only claim what’s most aligned for you but actually move it into a reality. His journey has inspired me on so many levels, and I know you will love this conversation.

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What to listen for:

• Kaedyn’s background as an actor and creator
• Coming out as trans while editing his first book, Gaia’s Song
• Finding points of reference for full expression through art
• Letting go of people pleasing and living your authentic expression

“You have to be yourself because living in that authentic expression is what is going to make you happy, not people pleasing. And then here’s the beautiful part. You are going to meet people that are in alignment that support that.”

• Feeling awkward and uncomfortable in his body as a teenager
• Being attracted to men but wishing he had their body
• Navigating femininity in a misogynistic society
• Reading about Elliot Page coming out and how it affected him
• The most painful part of coming out: other people’s silence
• Handling the losses that come with showing up fully expressed

“I would say that probably the most difficult part of this transition is the loss. I don’t grieve my old self. I’ve never felt more alive. Every single day I was out and sharing and stepping into that authenticity, I felt alive.”

• The pain of people’s pushback or complete silence
• Finding community through sharing videos on TikTok
• The decision to get on testosterone and have top surgery
• Why don’t we celebrate people claiming their truth?

“This is lifesaving for me. And I tear up about this, but I said to myself, ‘I don’t know if I can be on this planet anymore in this body now that I know. I cannot go another year and make it to another birthday in this body. I can’t.’ I was like, ‘if I don’t do this now, I’m not gonna be here.’ And I think that is probably one of the darkest moments I had after I came out… just the desperation.”

• Getting creative and asking for and receiving support
• Navigating difficulties and staying in motion on what’s important
• Celebrating transgender people at all points of their journey
• How he approaches making impossible things happen
• Getting people on board with your vision and goals

Kaedyn Nedopak (he/him) is an award-winning transgender Writer, Producer and Creative Activist who uses his creative work to inspire others and activate change in the world. Credits include the first-ever live Hollywood award show for geeks, The Geekie Awards, featuring Stan Lee; viral series The Skyrim Parodies and Late to the Game, the latter earning Nedopak the International Academy of Web Television’s ‘Best Host’ award. Kaedyn’s TV script for Gaia’s Song was awarded ‘Best Television Pilot’ finalist at CANNES, and after an international festival run with 20+ awards, Nedopak chose to turn the story into YA fantasy book series about a group of LGBTQ teens who survive a 19th century gender and class-driven society, in a tale of magic, found family and the healing power of love.

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“Surrender means that we’re deepening into our desire and calling with openness.”

In this episode, we’re talking about what surrender really means, how to settle into it to create rapid transformation, and how to take back your authority around what’s possible for you. Surrender is a wildly misunderstood word because we associate it so strongly with “giving up” on something, but that’s not what surrender means within the context of making our impossible desires inevitable. It aligns us with what we say we want and allows the right path to unfold continuously, letting life lead us into the experiences and opportunities that will shape us more fully into who we’re here to be. This conversation will help you redefine surrender so that you can step into the frequency of flow and start creating more, better, and different with far more ease.

Listen to our episode on the four critical types of trust.

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What to listen for:

• Understanding what surrender actually means
• How to stop being in resistance and why it matters
• Figuring out what we view as the “enemy” or “opponent”
• Being present in what we’re experiencing creates flow
• The critical types of trust and how they come into play

“If you don’t have trust, you cannot surrender because it won’t feel safe. You don’t trust yourself. You don’t trust life. You don’t trust other people. You don’t trust what you’re called towards, your desires, your purpose. And when you don’t trust, you can’t be open.”

• Why it’s okay to feel fear, and what stops us
• Stop fighting against yourself, life, and other people
• Surrender requires safe people and spaces
• How our winning strategy keeps us in resistance
• Taking back our authority around what’s possible

“We are the only person who has authority around what is and is not possible for us in our lives, but we don’t take that authority. We give the power to the past, to our interpretations, to our experience thus far with what’s possible and what’s not.”

• Submitting to the authority of our callings and purpose in life
• The universe and life are well-meaning and kindly towards you
• You cannot desire something that’s not possible for you
• Surrender doesn’t mean we’re giving up

“Surrender doesn’t mean that we throw our hands up in the air and that we’re not being guided and directed and moving towards and creating what we want. It means that we are deepening into our desire and calling with an openness, a receptiveness.”

• Surrender requires a willingness to be led
• You can’t surrender if you’re not feeling fully
• Doing the deeper healing work to step into surrender
• We’re being controlled by the past when we seek to control

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“Eventually, we will open into an expansive state because we have allowed what is here and contractive to move out of us.”

In this episode, we’re talking about working with our emotions healthily and productively. I’m also introducing you to the concept of The Void, a cornerstone in my work. In this world, we’re often taught that some emotions are “good,” and others are “bad,” but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Emotions are just energy in motion, and some of those energies are expansive, while others are contractive. Regardless of which category they fit into, all our emotions are good, valid, and healthy when we build a relationship with them and move them out of our bodies in productive ways. In this conversation, you’ll learn some techniques for working with your emotions (especially your “no-go zone” emotions), why this is vital to making the impossible happen, and how to access more of the feelings and states that you desire (and with far more fullness!)

Work through Journey Mapping if you’re in a challenging chapter or big life transition.

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What to listen for:

• Understanding contractive vs. expansive emotions
• You’re not tricking your body when you bypass emotions
• If you avoid contractive emotions, you’ll mute the expansive ones
• Anger is a healthy and profoundly supportive emotion
• No-go zone emotions and why you must feel and process them
• Personality types, core wounds, and subconscious winning strategies

“Whatever core emotion you refuse to feel is driving your life. And in your methods and strategies for avoiding it, you’re actually keeping what you want—both in terms of what you want to have, do, be, and create, and how you want to feel—perpetually out of reach. And even if you can feel those things, you won’t feel the fullness of them, the richness of them. They will be fleeting.”

• Looking at your limiting beliefs around emotions
• How to start building a healthy relationship with your emotions
• We reinforce our worldview through stories about our emotions
• The importance of alignment and knowing ourselves
• Process work is uncomfortable and confronting

“Process work is confronting. It’s challenging and revealing. It’s the most uncomfortable work you’ll ever do. But it will give you access to everything you want to feel, everything you desire, that you are fighting so hard to cultivate in yourself but you’re failing to experience.“

• Moving your emotions in a safe and productive way
• If your emotion could speak, what would it say?
• Transmuting our emotions into beautiful things
• Creating freedom and leverage to have what you desire
• When it feels like your emotions will consume you

“When we move past that point that we think is a point of no return, we open into what’s next. And there might be layers. Rage might go to sadness, might go to hopelessness, might go to hurt. But we can’t get to those layers if we’re unwilling to feel what’s present at the surface. And eventually, we will open into an expansive state because we have allowed what is here and contractive to move out of us.“

• Working with The Void to access our sense of Source
• My first experience dropping through The Void
• A short practice for moving your emotions productively

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“Doing hard things looks like you just taking the next breath and the next step. And then doing that again and again until you’re on the other side.”

In this episode, we’re talking about what persistence should actually be centered around and what it takes to do hard things (as well as how these depend on one another). I personally had to do a lot of really hard things over the last couple of weeks, letting go of both my beloved cats suddenly and unexpectedly, just five days apart. And while “doing hard things” doesn’t necessarily become easier as we build our capacity for it, what I do know to be true is that it can be more easeful. Meaning, we’re not piling resistance, tension, and heaps of old baggage on top of how challenging it already is to navigate what we’re walking through.

Work through Journey Mapping if you’re in a challenging chapter or big life transition.

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What to listen for:

• The loss of my two cats five days apart over the holidays
• Thinking, “I don’t know how to do this,” and the truth that followed
• Doing hard things can initially bring up a lot of doubt.
• How we actually do hard things

“You just take the next breath and the next step. And then you do that again and again and again until you’re on the other side. You feel your feelings and you break down and you cry, whatever you need to do as you take those steps. But the only way through hard things is to walk through it.”

• How we create more ease doing hard things by removing resistance
• Glennon Doyle and the We Can Do Hard Things podcast
• Each loss, trauma, and challenging chapter is unique
• Processing and healing old wounds is essential
• Doing hard things looks messy and feels deeply uncomfortable

“It was messy, but I did it one step and one decision at a time. And here’s the thing about doing hard things that are abrupt and sudden and overwhelming, which a lot of them are. There’s a shift that happens in our foundation. And when the ground shifts beneath us, our center of gravity shifts with it. It can be very disorienting.“

• Reorienting after loss and trauma with Journey Mapping
• Learning how to slow down and self-regular during challenges
• All that’s happening is what’s happening, and we feel our feelings
• Giving ourselves more leverage to navigate hard things

“We can’t do hard things if we’re unwilling to feel what’s challenging, difficult, and uncomfortable. If we’re unwilling to sit in uncertainty, to navigate our way through that, to face the many unknowns that come with these experiences. We can’t do them. We will seek to bypass, to avoid, to stuff down. And we might get through to the other side of something, but we won’t be free and clear of it. We’ll still be carrying everything that was unfelt, unprocessed, unresolved in our bodies, in our cells, in our tissues, in our bones.“

• Building our emotional intelligence and feeling our way through
• How this process relates back to the Terror Barrier
• What is persistence, and in what ways does it actually matter?
• True persistence doesn’t mean we never give up and quit
• Understanding your purpose and what it means to be fully expressed
• Persistence and doing hard things go hand-in-hand

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“When someone perceives us, they’re telling us more about who they are and how they see the world.”

In this episode, we’re talking about the art and power of not taking things personally and how it creates more freedom and leverage to align with what you want. We’ve all heard about not taking other people’s opinions, judgments, or hurtful actions personally. Still, there’s more to the equation if you want to release your attachment to other people’s perceptions, and I’m sharing a perspective on this topic that’s rarely discussed. This work is critical in making the impossible happen because attachment activates our subconscious winning strategy and pushes what we desire further and further away. Additionally, we’ll cover the Perception Model so that you actually understand why things aren’t personal!

Read my memoir, Unravel: Rising up and Coming Back From a Season of Living That Damn Near Killed Me, here.

What to listen for:

• The perception model and how we perceive people or experiences
• Our internal filters, perceptions, and deeper structures
• Internalizing experiences based on our stories and worldviews
• When our perception mixes with our current state and emotions

“If we’re not conscious of our anger, if we’re deep in the messy experience and we’re feeling triggered or we’re feeling hurt, and that’s why anger is present, the way that we perceive something changes. It’s influenced by our current state, and it can be influenced by our physical state and experience.”

• Someone’s perception has everything to do with them
• We can have the same experience but different perceptions
• We don’t use this model to gaslight ourselves or others
• How we can trust that our perceptions are clear

“We must do the deeper healing work to really understand our own perception model and build it in such a way that it’s supportive and productive of creating what we really want.”

• Feel your feelings but don’t take things personally
• Looking for honest reflections in other people’s perception
• Asking for other people’s reflections and insights
• Truth is subjective and ever-changing
• The “bad” and the “good” aren’t personal

“We can relish in the expansive emotions and feel the goodness of it; that’s the same as feeling our disappointment, hurt, or anger. We can feel how we feel about it, but we don’t tell stories. We don’t interpret it. We don’t take it personally. Someone else loving my book is no more a reflection of me than someone hating it.”

• We’re always revealing our perception model to others
• Releasing our attachment to other people’s perceptions of us
• Breaking free from our subconscious winning strategy
• What to do if you’re struggling with taking things personally

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“Let life support you. The baseline state of our universe is well-meaning and kindly towards you.”

In today’s episode, we’re talking about the four different types of trust and learning how to let life support you. Oftentimes, as we walk these journeys, we start to believe that life is happening to us. But when we learn how to separate the human and natural elements from the universe as a whole—and we understand the frequency that it operates from—we can learn to work with it to create what we desire. But this requires the foundational energetics of specific types of trust, and that’s exactly what we’re digging into today.

Grab our free self-coaching guide on Reconnecting With Your Intuition here.

Work through our Actualize program to uncover your purpose and callings so you can start moving towards them here.

What to listen for:

• Life is always happening around us, as life tends to do
• What trust means, and understanding the frequency of it
• Fear and trust vs. fear, worry, and doubt
• Trusting yourself and your intuition
• Building a relationship with your body’s wisdom

“Your body is more capable than you are. It’s wired to pick up on those variations and frequency and energy. Intention is an energy. Trust is an energy. The desire to cause harm is an energy. It’s a frequency that gets emitted from the other person from the situation. It hangs in the air, and your body has the ability to discern that.”

• Navigating the Terror Barrier when going for more
• Trusting your calling and your purpose
• When following our callings lead to loss

“Every time someone or something falls away in the process of becoming who we’re here to be and in the process of creating our impossible desires, it’s a deeper active alignment that takes a tremendous amount of trust in yourself and your calling.”

• Trusting other people despite past experiences
• My journey of rebuilding trust with myself and men
• Processing your trauma and repatterning your subconscious

“Looking at these experiences and these people individually helps us build a new map, a new framework for who is trustworthy and who is not so that we can better discern that. Not everyone is untrustworthy just because you had bad experiences; only those people are now untrustworthy. How can you learn from that in such a way that allows you to rebuild trust in everyone else who is yet to lose your trust?”

• Learning to be discerning with who’s trustworthy
• Having trust in something greater than yourself
• Understanding our frequency-based universe
• Life inherently supports us in growth and expansion
• The meaning of a “benevolent universe.”
• Separating human and natural experiences from life

“The baseline state of our universe is well-meaning and kindly towards you. It supports you in growing into who you’re here to be. Your fullest expression. Life is not happening to you; it’s happening around you, as life tends to do. Can you separate the human and natural elements out?”

• The frequency that life operates on, and how to meet it
• How to stop resisting life’s support for you
• We must have trust to create what we desire
• Clearing what’s blocking you from having trust